Rather, the only thing to "do" is simply to be and simply being is not the result of an active pursuit, but rather the natural result of releasing the self from the encumbrance or distraction of immature personality strategy. So, working on yourself or your relationships doesn't work. The desire for change is a reflection of the problem, not the solution.Empathy and acceptance for our parents and ourselves enables us to relax and release the knot in our psyche, to disidentify with the defensive personality and reidentify with our original, core self-to finally complete our childhood. It's not about pathology, but spiritual immaturity. Neurosis is the natural, stepwise unfolding of human maturation.Personality is a strategy devised by an earlier, immature version of our adult self.Safety-love-is the central issue of infancy a lack thereof results in defensive highjacking of the ego function to create a personality as an acquired strategy to attain love.Of course, we all have individual differences at birth, like the wide-ranging forms of trees in the forest, yet we are all "perfect" in our essence. I want to emphasize that in psycheology, we are not talking about the personality, but the true, original self-the self we were born as before our parents "had at us." Our true, original self lies under our personality, in the transpersonal ground of our being, at our core.
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